“I didn’t try using a sex toy until I was 32. Although I’ve always been open-minded, fairly sexual and comfortable with my body, I’d never gotten around to actually buying one, for a lot of stupid reasons. I was embarrassed; the first time I was introduced to vibrators was at a Home Party. The Rabbit was the newest vibrator on the market and women were crazy for it. This was so very new. This was not something that I spoke about to with my friends or my partner. Masturbation was never a topic that was approachable. Growing up masturbation was a dirty act that other people did. Only sluts used sex toys, right? Or even the girls whose boyfriends or husbands weren’t doing it for them?

I know so many people who have been dying to try sex toys, but have been too embarrassed to do anything about it. I’ve also heard from many people who already enjoy sex toys and would like to use them with their partners, but have been too reluctant to bring their toys to the bedroom for fear of offending their loved ones. And I’m sure there are others out there who have tried to share a favorite toy with a partner, but was unprepared for the negative reactions they may have received.

Whatever the case, it is possible to introduce sex toys into your relationship.

Sex Toys Feel Good. There’s no disputing that orgasms feel good. Sex toys help you have better, stronger, longer orgasms, which is always a good thing.

Sex Toys are Fun. Most couples get bored with their sex lives at some point in their relationships. Sex toys add a bit of passion to the relationship and keep things from getting dull. Using a sex toy together can bring you closer; sharing new experiences together can be very intimate.

Sex Toys Make Sex Better. Many women have difficulty achieving orgasms unless they receive clitoral stimulation, which can be difficult to manage during intercourse. Also, many men have trouble sustaining their erections as long as they would like. Sex toys can help in both of those situations. They can also enhance a perfectly good lovemaking session, adding just enough “oomph” to turn a great experience into an outstanding one.

There are so many misconceptions surrounding sex toys. Sex toys are for perverts, weirdoes, sluts or freaks. This is completely untrue. Millions of married couples use toys to enhance their bedroom activities. While sex toys are usually used for masturbation, couples do enjoy using sex toys together. This does not mean there are problems with your relationship, it means that you enjoy your partner and want to enhance your orgasm. What better way than to let your partner discover you all over again with a dildo or vibrator, but be gentle. Your partner may like it on the rough side, but hold back a little the first few times you play with toys. There’s plenty of time to accelerate! Use lubrication. Sex toys need lots of lube to slip and slide the way they should. The last thing your girlfriend needs to worry about is whether she’s wet enough to enjoy herself. Similarly, you don’t want to risk injury to male or female partners by inserting something into a dry orifice. Keep a bottle of lube handy and use it.

What if my partner will feel inadequate if I start using a sex toy? Those fears quickly disappear when they see the pleasure that such a small device can give one person. Communication is the key, don’t be in a hurry and let your partner know what you need from them. Talk to your partner. He or she may have agreed to use the toy, but that doesn’t mean your lover is completely confident with the idea. Talk your way through the experience. Ask your partner if what you are doing together feels good. If it doesn’t, try something else. Be flexible. The toy you’ve selected might turn out to be totally wrong for your sexual personalities. That’s okay. Put it aside and try something different.

Be patient. Your partner may agree to play with the toy, and then change his or her mind midway through the experience. Be patient and try again another time. It might take awhile, but it will be worth the wait. Remember that your relationship is a partnership, which implies that both of you are in this together. You make the decision together; you select the toy together. If your lover feels as though he or she can trust you, things will go much better for you and your toy.

Share this wonderful experience together, relax and have fun!” ~SB~

“There has been much talk about women’s use of vibrators and dildos, with some frowning upon them for being some kind of substitute for a real penis. There are many varieties of sex toys designed especially for men, some sex toys are designed for women, and some are made for men and women to share. The end result is, ideally, a better sex life: more frequent and better orgasms, higher arousal, more foreplay and a bit of adventure to spruce things up. Having the proper tools on hand always makes the experience more gratifying. You may have the moves to keep her happy in bed for now, but the object of your desire will appreciate that little extra something when she least expects it. And we’re talking extras that enhance, prolong, entice, and make sex more enjoyable more often.

Silicon Lubricants

Smooth, slippery goodness awaits you when using lube. It slides, coats and eases the way. Water-based lubricants work well, especially when using condoms. Oil-based lubes tend to break down the very barrier you need in place to protect you both. A very gentle, non-burning and slick choice is the Toko Silicone. Its sumptuous velvety touch will amaze you. Its never-ending lubrication will astonish you. It is in a class of its own, leaving all other silicone lubricants obsolete. Use it even under water or as a massage lotion to enjoy endless loving caresses all over your body. She’ll thank you for it. Use it anytime you have sex — daily, nightly, midday, anytime. The beauty of Toko Silicone is that when she wants it, you can ease in without any trouble. Increase your sexual activity by keeping her warm, wet and always at the ready.

Massage oil

Anything that involves glistening, slippery skin is beneficial to a good sexual romp — at least it should be. Massages are a great form of foreplay. It loosens the muscles, relaxes the body and the mind, and puts her in a sensual haze. It also provides a perfect opportunity to strip off her clothes for “innocent” reasons. Good oils have a fresh, light fragrance. The Oriental body-to-body massage is a completely arousing and intensely erotic sensual experience. The gel, poured entirely onto the two naked bodies, lets lovers glide against one another in a slip-and-slide motion with ease and almost in complete weightlessness, which creates an intoxicating and aphrodisiac effect. The feeling of the skin itself becomes exciting and transforms sweet caresses into soft touches that bring you to the height of your imagination and your wildest desires.” ~SB~

“There is a time in every relationship where you feel as if the spark that was once there is gone.  Many married couples and people in long term relationships struggle with this and it is a usually a major hurdle to overcome.  Bringing the spark back is easy and requires a bit of work and positive thinking from both parties.  Here are five ways you can bring the spark back and rekindle your relationship.

1. Most couples communicate for an average of 12 minutes a day and the majority of it relates to work, the kids or bills.  Set aside one night a week for date night.  Whether you go out for supper, to a movie, or even for a nice walk spend one night where the nuances of every day life are not and you get to enjoy each others company.
2. Try to bring the romance back.  Surprise your girl (or guy) with candles in the bedroom, rose petals on the bed and soft music.  Buy some massage oil and give them a slow, relaxing massage. This is great for stress relief and will definitely increase your feelings for you partner.
3. For Men - It’s the little things that count.  Show your partner appreciation by helping with cleaning, opening the door for her or surprising her by doing something you normally wouldn’t do.  (Putting the toilet seat down!)
4. To spice up your life in the bedroom try bringing sex toys into the bedroom. Sex toys can be a great addition to your sex life and make things in the bedroom quite a bit more exciting.
5. Be positive.  Your attitude will reflect on your partner.  If you’re always negative this negative attitude is going to cause your partner to think negatively and make your relationship difficult for the both of you.  If you maintain a positive mind frame, it will make you both feel better about your relationship and feelings for each other.” ~SB~